I love this jumper thingy. It tires out a very active 10-month old baby even easier than she normally tires out herself. She can jump in this thing endlessly. And she's smilin' the whole time. It's awesome!
M and I are going through our woe-is-me, why-don't-we-have-friends stage again. I mean, we DO have friends. We have a few super nice people we see regularly, a few wonderful people we see less regularly and some we see because we invite them over and they never, ever, ever invite us over again. We both have smelled ourselves and think we smell fine. We have other friends so we know it's not "us" per se. We absolutely cannot for the life of us find other like minded parent types that just need a little adult conversation while their children poke each others eyes out and bonk each other over the head with toys (fortunately soft toys at this age!). Excuse me, let me re-phrase that, we can FIND those people but unless we invite them to do something, we would never see them again. Ever.
How hard can it be to meet 30 something people with babies who want to make the acquaintance with other 30 something people with babies? As much as I love M and he's my best friend and I his, we do spend 24/7 with each other and so sometimes finding new things to talk about can get difficult. Sometimes M might like to find someone to discuss his house remodeling stuff with who actually understands what he's talking about and I like to talk about what E's doing now and whether it's normal or whacky or just plain odd. I know people move in and out of Seattle and I'm sure that not all the people here already have friends and family that occupy their whole weekend but where ARE these people? Where are the people who have a couple hours to spare with friends - to make friends? How do I do this? I've done it a lot as a single and I know it's hard. I know meeting people you connect with is as hard as finding a pair of shorts to fit this post pregnancy body (is that a good one? I couldn't decide... maybe I'll think of something better as I type along) but I keep trying. I don't try TOO hard but I try..
I know these people are out there. I've seen them at Easy Street having breakfast too early like we are (although why we continue to eat there is beyond me as it is not.that.good), I've seen them walking at Alki and at Lincoln Park. I've seen them. Maybe some day, they'll see us too.
5 comments:
Ten months?!
Ohmygosh.....
She's so darn cute in the jumpery thingamabob!
And this meeting 30 something people--it'll happen, really it will.
Himself is establishing some friendships of his very own and it was a process and a half....but it did happen.
It'll happen for you and M, too.
Keep making the effort cuz it WILL pay off.
*huge hugs*
Geeze....ten MONTHS already?!
We couldn't use a jumper because we were afraid that Nathan's enormous weight would break the door frame. So our exersaucer was a lifesaver. And now he can't even fit that.
Thanks again for saying hello to my husband and son. I'm so bummed I didn't get to meet you! I have similar issues finding like-minded parents. Granted, many of them are nice, but sometimes we have the polar opposite of parenting philosophies.
And I've always thought Easy Street was nice, but not great. I mean, maybe it's the interminable wait we always encounter that makes the food better.
You two are the greatest. I can't imagine that you'd have a hard time finding friends...and yet you are!
Keep putting yourselves out there. Like Mel says..it'll happen. Just don't lose heart.
Have I mentioned how adorable that girl of yours is??
xxooxx
p.s. You KNOW we'd love to hang out with you if we lived up there!
Hmmm, we're not in our 30's and it's physically impossible for us to make a baby now that we're both 'harmless'- but will you still be our friend?
Casey used to love that jumper thing. So funny to watch.
She is so adorable.
She's a doll... My E also loved the jumper thingie but not as much as the bouncy chair. That kid would've lived in the bouncy chair if I let him.
I've noticed that the friends I have who waited until their 30's to have kids are, well, mostly into themselves. Not to mention that rather than try to live well rounded lives, they're overachievers who tend to focus on one aspect at a time. D's friends don't seem to be like that, but mine definitely are. You guys aren't like that, and maybe that's the difference. And maybe that's why I check your blog more often to see what you guys are up to even though they're on island with me.
One thing I will say, though, is that you will start to see the same folks and once the kids are old enough to interact, you'll start to make more informal play dates which then lead to friendships.
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