Oh, I've already noticed that this keyboard is typing what I have to say quite a bit later than I want. Needless to say, that means lots of typos. And going back, and re-typing, etc.
Yesterday was my birthday, the big three-nine. I don't feel 39. I can't believe I have a baby and I'm 39. I always thought I would've done things much earlier. I don't really mean anything by that - it's more of an observation of myself - but I just thought I would've. I also would've thought that I'd learned not to say hurtful things to people, even if they are truthful. Or maybe I would know how to say truthful things that might be hurtful more diplomatically, so they aren't hurtful. Either way, it seems I have not learned it and I said something stupid to a dear friend. I am debating with myself about writing it here - writing it, telling people, makes me take accountability again (I've told M and he was not happy with me) but it also gives people the opportunity to make me feel better and I don't necessarily think I should. My friend and I worked through it and hopefully, she will take what I said as constructive criticism and try to ignore the fact that I was so thoughtless. Sigh. It's weighed heavily on my mind since it happened Thursday and I don't know if I should bring it up again with an "I'm sorry I hurt you"-type card or let us move on? Any suggestions?
I don't have any photos to post today, even though we took some cute ones this weekend. I haven't done any downloading since then. I did get to the gym however, so that's a plus in my favor! And it's a short week, as I'm taking Friday off since my boss gives us a day off for our birthdays! Should be nice!
Monday, July 30, 2007
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6 comments:
Happy belated birthday!
It's cool that your boss gives you the day off.
About the friend, depending on the offense, sometimes the best apology is to let it rest. Sometimes. ;) Sorry, not much help there.
Guess we just never stop learning, eh?
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Bestest wishes are never late, even when the greetings on your birthday are, eh?
And I'm one to let the other person be in the driver's seat when I've blundered and been hurtful.
They can tell me "shut up already, Mel.....you've apologized a gazillion times already--BE DONE. I am."
*sigh*
I can get so unraveled when I hurt people.
ah, opposing viewpoints. come on, ladies (and guy!), I need a tiebreaker! :)
I was surprised not to find a picture this time. You've been spoiling us!!
Happy HAPPY birthday, my friend. The big three-nine. You've accomplished so much and should be feeling fulfilled. Travels, work, love, baby... Your life is an adventure and you've got so much yet to explore with M & little E.
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As for your friend? Sigh... I, for one, would send an apology card or something. I'm not sure I'd be able to call it good until my friend says "enough already!"
But that's just me. Might not be the right thing to do, but that's probably how I'd do it.
Helpful? Probably not. I can see it's tearing you up. Hopefully you won't let it consume you and can build your friendship even stronger.
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xoxo
OH NO! I missed your birthday! Well, we'll have to have a toast to you at Angela's shower, eh? Happy belated!
I am in the apology card camp. Just a cute "breezy" card, not necessarily one labeled "apology". Add your note to it.
I, too, beat myself up horribly when I've offended someone. I probably go overboard in trying to make up for it.
Happy belated birthday!
The fact that you realize how hurtful your words were to that person says a lot about you. We can't be perfect all of the time, but it's important that we take responsibility when we aren't, and we learn from our mistakes and try to become better people.
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